Deepthroating

When I first got interested in this topic I tried to research it online. After reading dozens of extremist-feminist forum responses to devoted girlfriends asking for deepthroating advice (“He must be immature and watch too much porn, cut him off Bjs altogether!”), I decided experimenting on my own is less frustrating. So here’s my contribution to the deepthroat debate.

You need to love it. First of all, and against regular misconception, deepthroating can be very enjoyable for a woman. When you get the hang of the breathing technique and how to position your throat, it does not hurt or make you throw up as some seem to think. One thing is for sure, you need to want to do it, not only because it requires a bit of motivation to overcome the starting difficulties, but because he’ll notice if you look like you’re suffering = turn-off. Practice brings results, and no man will object if you announce you’d like to start rehearsing deepthroating.

Positions. Probably the most frequent advice on how to start attempting at deepthroating is to lay on your back on the bed, with your head hanging off the edge. This automatically puts your head in the ideal position to get a dick in as far as possible. Start the same way you normally blow him, but focus on getting his dick a little bit further with each thrust (thrusts you create, not him. If he doesn’t know it, tell him to absolutely not ram it in you mouth no matter how excited he gets. That’s gonna hurt you and likely also him when you get surprised and your teeth end up where they shouldn’t.) Controlling the depth his dick reaches is easiest by holding the base of it in your hand. As your throat warms up and saliva accumulates, you’ll be able to take him in further and further.

To me, the above mentioned position (of lying on the bed with your head tilted) was actually not the most pleasant one for practicing, cause it makes blood run into the head and got me feeling queasy before I even got properly going. I prefer either kneeling in front of the man or having him lay on the bed, legs apart. When he’s on his back you have full control of how deep you take him, and in this game patience wins. !Remember to attach your hair! (Guys love talking hold of a ponytail while you’re at work) If he’s standing up, you can add visual (which is known to turn men on powerfully) by moving in front of a mirror. He’ll have a nice view on your back and ass and his own hand at the back of your head, which will probably make the job quicker for you. Up to now it sounds fun and easy, but unfortunately there’s some challenges to work on before you can fully enjoy giving it to him. Troubleshooting is discussed next.

Gagging. This is the thing women fear most about deepthroating. The sensitivity of the gag reflex is highly personal. But by rehearsing regularly everyone should be able to reduce the reflex. Even though many sources suggest doing this with a dildo, I am not a fan of this, as a dildo never has the exact same texture and firmness as a hard dick. It won’t bend the same way and adjust to your throat, and practicing with one can discourage you. Best to use the real thing. Also, when you’ve gone on for a while, you might notice your mouth produces more saliva than during a normal blowjob (god’s way of saying YES for deepthroating!) This makes things easier as places are well lubricated, but make sure you empty your mouth when it gets too much. A mouthful of saliva will likely make you gag when you try to insert a dick in as well. If you think it won’t make you feel sick, swallow (this is best done often so you never have to swallow a big amount.) Another option is to  spit everything on his dick while stroking it, which adds to the nastiness of the situation.

In the positions where he’s sitting or standing in front of you, his dick will hit against your palate, which is sensitive to gag reflex. This is why it’s perhaps better to leave these positions to times when you’re already used to the activity.

Focus on your tongue. In order to get his dick in deeper, you need to push out your tongue to make room inside your mouth. This exposes the parts of your mouth most likely to trigger gag reflex, and that’s why it’s a good idea to divert your attention elsewhere. Focus on what you can do with your tongue as you move your lips up and down his dick. Unless he occupies all the space between your lips, you can flatten your tongue and move it along his shaft, which he’ll probably enjoy cause he’s not expecting that many things to be going on at the same time. In general, alternating between deepthroating, stroking while licking the tip of his dick and the area behind his balls, teabagging, or holding your tongue firmly against the head of his dick while stroking fast give you enough time to catch your breath so you can enjoy what you’re going.

Respiration. Regardless of the position, the number one rule about deepthroating is to BREATHE. As soon as you feel your gag reflex kicking in, take his dick out a bit and draw some deep breaths. Whenever you need to do this, keep stroking him with your hand, and you won’t interrupt the pleasure he’s having. For longer breaks work your tongue and lips like you’d normally do when blowing him (after mastering deepthroating, you’ll notice ‘regular’ blowjobs start feeling like picnics).

The breaking point is when you feel his penis touching the back of your palate, and you think that’s as far as it can get. Wrong. By focusing and breathing through your nose you can shove it in the extra few cm/an inch/xxx (depending on his size). Start by getting it in all the way for a short while at a time and then pulling out; you’ll notice it’s not impossible, and once you get used to the feeling of the dick blocking your throat and learn to calmly breathe through your nose, you’ll be able to stay there longer. From personal experience, guys love it when you take it in all the way and hold as long as you are able. Sound effects are welcome as well, if you feel like you’re working at the edge of your limits, don’t hold back the moans, it will make him feel like his dick is almost too big for you to handle. (Sometimes, there’s situations where you simply are not able to deepthroat him, like after a night of drinking. I find a good way to tell him it’s not gonna happen tonight is “I can’t. You’re too big and hard, it’s too much.” He’ll probably be too proud of his amazing erection to be too disappointed).

When you start getting the hang of it, you can indicate to your man that it’s ok for him to take more control of the situation. To most men, taking hold of a woman’s head while she’s performing is part of the fantasy. Just make sure he understands that any injury he causes you will probably result in sick leave.

And finally, waterproof mascara is a good idea if you want your face to stay presentable. A dick deep in your throat will likely make your eyes water. ..But for many guys, the disheveled, post-BJ look with messy hair and melted mascara is a turn-on. Makes them feel like the king of the porn film.

- J


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